The 24-year-old actress, Shailene Woodley opened up about her family with the digital magazine called “The EDIT.” During her interview she explainedthat how her parents—her dad, a psychologist, and her mom, a counselor, raised her.  She said, “My family is super-f–ked up in many ways, but they are also my everything. They would do anything for me, and I would do anything for them. That’s a lot more than most people can say about their families. I’m grateful for the s–t that happened.”

The actress gave the magazine some unique examples. First she quoted from her childhood memory with her brother who used to get into typical sibling argument. She said that after these arguments her parents would make them stand on the lawn and hug it out for hours on end—in front of their neighbors and everything! She revealed, “The whole time you’re just seething, you’re disliking this person with so much energy, but if you let go you have to stay there for an extra hour. That was the manipulative psychology my parents were into!”

She quoted another example and said, “There were times in school, when someone said something really mean, it would hurt my feelings and my parents weren’t on my side. They would be like, ‘I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way, but what do you think that person was feeling?’ Oh, I hated it.” The Snowden actress says that now she realizes that this all made her a better person. She said, “Now, of course, I understand it; it’s enabled me to recognize that no one’s evil, they’re probably hurting and can’t express themselves, get no love at home, so it’s repeated. It gave me a broader outlook: just put yourself in another person’s shoes.”